Bring up the word "infidelity" at a dinner party or on a psychiatrist's couch, and you're likely to see the conversation veer off to issues regarding the libido. But there may be an even more insidious form of infidelity that packs just as much punch as the romantic kind, and can just as easily break up a family. It's financial infidelity and it's running rampant these days. Why do so many people hide debt and spending issues from their loved ones?
Without even meaning to, we learn details, names, sources and suspicions. Still, other studies reveal that 90 percent of Americans believe adultery is morally wrong. Infidelity is inarguably prevalent, yet it is extensively frowned upon.
Given this discrepancy, it is important for every couple to address how they are going to approach the subject of fidelity and to examine the level of honesty and openness in their relationship.
I declined answering the question, for one simple reason: Since when did lying become okay? Two adults can agree to whatever terms of a relationship they like, but the hidden violation of the agreement is what makes an act a betrayal and an affair unethical.
In the book Sex and Love in Intimate RelationshipsI cited extensive research on the subject of infidelity and posed the following: Deception may be the most damaging aspect of infidelity.
Deception and lies shatter the reality of others, eroding their belief in the veracity of their perceptions and subjective experience. As kids, we are taught that it is wrong to lie; yet as we get older, the lines tend to become increasingly blurred.
This is especially the case when we are faced with the challenging conditions that come with intimate relationships. When this happens, jealousy, possessiveness insecurity and distrust can cause us to warp and misuse our relationships. An example of this might be a woman whose boyfriend gets so jealous that he forbids her to be alone with other men.
Another example may be a man whose partner feels so insecure that she demands to be constantly reassured of his love and attraction to her. This type of restrictive situation can become a hotbed for dishonesty. The woman may lie about time alone she spent with a male friend or co-worker, or the man may lie about an attraction he is starting to feel for another woman.
When we treat our partners with respect and honesty, we are true not only to them but to ourselves. We can make decisions about our lives and our actions without compromising our integrity or acting on a sense of guilt or obligation.
When we restrict our partners, we can compromise their sense of vitality, and we inadvertently set the stage for deception. The more open we are with each other, the cleaner and more resilient our relationships become. Conversely, the more comfortable we become with keeping secrets, the more likely we become to tell bigger and bigger lies.
When an affair occurs, denial is an act of deception that works to preserve the fantasy that everything is okay. Admitting that something is not okay or that you are looking for something outside the relationship is information that your partner deserves to know.
Emotions sprung from deception like suspicion and anger can tear a relationship apart, but more importantly they can truly hurt another person by shattering their sense of truth.How much better off would our loved ones, co-workers, and neighbors be if we didn’t so often kid ourselves about ourselves!
Christian psychotherapy can often help with that. Unfortunately, and as I’ve already implied, much in contemporary life militates against the antidotes to prelest. Lies and liars come in all shapes, and in shades of white, grey and black. What distinguishes the more extreme forms of lying is the degree of harm they cause and the extent to which the behavior becomes habitual or uncontrollable.
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But, most people, including most Christians, do not see it coming. Will you be a "Watchman On The Wall" with us? What is self-deception?
How can you deceive yourself? Self-deception is when we bend our values and beliefs in order to fill our deeply felt needs and wants. Self deception seemingly offers a cure for our weaknesses and fears.
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Information on the Dangers of New Age Thinking and the New Thought Movement – And possible “ways” to help friends and loved ones exit the deception Compiled By: Sharon Lee Giganti, © leslutinsduphoenix.com This is Clare McGrath Merkle's website - - she's a faithful Catholic, and a great New Age denouncer-having been there herself!